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Life, Personal, Psycolog, Ramblings

The why of the what.

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Why do you do the things you do? Why do you react to some people one way and others in another?  What causes me to want to go to a church that fills me with joy or even go to church in the first place?  What inner voice drives me to learn and share that learning?  Why do I write or even write about the subjects I do?  For that matter, why do I keep asking questions like these?  Others seem to ignore the why and are more concerned about the what.

To this end, I have researched and studied and digested numerous sources all the way from Maslow’s hierarchy of needs to Herzberg’s two-factor theory. I have self-analyzed myself to a point of frustration.

In the next couple of weeks, I plan to address what makes me, and for that matter, you and everyone else, what seems to motivate our actions.  Further, I will include the direct relationship to each of our motivations to God and how we choose to serve Him.

Prior to addressing the nine motives or desires, I have set specific criteria to each.  First criteria for each motive or desire is that it is amoral.  That is there is no cause for judgment in having one of these motives or desires.  The desires of the body are morally neutral.  Second is that each of these desires or motives can and often lead to moral decisions.  The why will turn to what.  Thirdly, our moral decisions based on these desires can be good, holy, and Godly.  Conversely, our moral decisions can be bad, sinful and ungodly. Lastly, as humans, we all have these motives or desires to one degree or other.  To ignore any of them is to ignore what God has put in us and how God made us.

So this is where I am going:

  1. Acceptance
  2. Curiosity
  3. Consumption
  4. Family
  5. Honor
  6. Idealism
  7. Independence
  8. Order
  9. Love
Life, Personal, Uncategorized, Worship

Expectation and Miracles

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There is a joke that goes something like this: Two people fell off a high skyscraper.  One was an optimist the other a pessimist.  You could hear them as they fell down to an adjacent river. The pessimist was screaming and cursing as he fell.  The optimist could be heard as he passed each floor, “So far so good.”

So many people do not like to raise their expectations because they do not want to be disappointed.  “Don’t pray for healing, just pray that the doctors will know what to do.”  I believe that God will only intercede where there is faith. Faith is an expectation, an understanding of who God is and what He is capable of.  And it is this expectation that, in turn, increased our faith. Our faith level rises to the level of our expectation.

If you expect nothing, you will get nothing!  Praying for others is important to both me and God.  Never-the-less, the expectation of the person needing the miracle is even more important. I learned many years ago not to pray for a miracle if a person doesn’t have the faith or desire one. It is not that my prayer of faith can’t promote a miracle, but when the miracle does happen, the receiver reduces it by their doubt.

If you need a miracle, you need to pray in expectation.  Remove the doubt, remove the lack of expectation and pray in faith believing. Come into his presence with faith believing with no lack of expectation.  Get pumped up for God’s outflowing.

WHAT ARE YOU BELIEVING FOR THIS WEEK?

John 14:13-14, And whatever you ask in My name, that I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. 14 If you ask anything in My name, I will do it.

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Life, Personal, Politics

Current Culture is stealing our individuality

Time for my soapbox. Now, this is my opinion, but I have a problem with a culture that would say the giant collective has all the answers. It is a utopian vision of completeness in the here and now. The current culture pushes that there are answers to all the ills of our world and that answer is within reach through a change of culture. The philosophy being pushed by the current culture of self-sufficiency may well sound perfect, progressive, liberal, and people-centric. But with it this philosophy carries away with it control of our individuality. And that is what is so scary. As individuals, the more we provide the resources and authority to the establishment to do what they think is best, we also give up our own freedoms. Individually you don’t know what you are doing collectively.

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Theology

Who is God?

Placing a name or description, or even a title on Jesus has been debated for over 2,000 years.  Mark 8:27 Jesus asked what others said.  Who do men say that I am …?

When Jesus asked the question, “Who do men say that I am? He did not need the information.  He wanted to discover what was in the minds of the men and women who spoke of him. It does not matter what you call God.  As long as you do. This is the most important question which confronts people of all generation.

What is particularly important that the apostles should be instructed in the all-important fact of WHO Jesus is, and was, and shall be forever.  And that is the real issue.  We may well call Him by many names, never-the-less, the vital, the essence of who He was, is, and will always be must be unchangeable. A God that does not change.  Just because we call Him one thing does not change His being.  What we call Jesus is more of a personal thing. It speaks loudly our perception of God.   I had one lady in church that used the name of “Baby Jesus”, another would refer to God as “Daddy God”, and some would call Him Messiah, Christ, Lord, King, Father, or even Triune God Head.  And each describes what the individual is looking for in God.

Listen carefully as you pray.  What names do you use?  And please remember:

  1. You can’t change God
  2. You can’t change God’s will
  3. You can’t change God’s plan
  4. You can change God’s methodology because he still uses people.
  5. You can change you
  6. God can change you.

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Church

Welcome

Welcome home.  We are glad you are here, and it doesn’t matter why.

Please stop a moment and look around to those around you.  You will notice we don’t all look the same.  Some will be dressed as if they were going to the office and others like they are going on vacation.  It really doesn’t matter that much how we dress.  For that matter, we don’t sound the same.  We don’t smile the same.  You see that we are all uniquely designed.  But most of all, what is most important is that we are all uniquely loved. God loves all that is here, including you. God loves you in your specialness.

Here is a place for your individuality and specialness. This place is more like a hospital than a cathedral. It is a place where broken hearts are healed.  Broken relationships are mended. Broken minds are provided a place to recover. A place where broken dreams can be realized.

There is a place for you here.

Join us as we worship.  Join us as we are admonished.  Join us as we sing.  Join us as we enjoy community without judgment.

There is a place for you here.  We want to get to know you.  Don’t worry, you will fit right in. You uniqueness fills a gap in our own.

Church, Preaching, Worship

Preaching or Worship?

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And how will they hear without a preacher?
Romans 10:14

There seems to be an open debate now being waged over the character and centrality of preaching in the church. There is a perception of two competing events: preaching and worship.  The church today seems to be moving the line between the two towards the experiential worship side. Sermons are no longer something to be excited about and yearned for by the congregant but seen as taking second place to worship.

How did this happen? Given the central place of preaching in the New Testament church, you would think there would be no debate. No other religion has made the regular and frequent assembling of groups of people, to hear religious instruction and exhortation.  The very act of proclamation or preaching is an integral part of Christian worship.

Yet, numerous influential voices within evangelicalism suggest that the age of the expository sermon is over. In its place, some contemporary preachers now substitute messages intentionally designed to reach secular or superficial congregations–messages which avoid preaching a biblical text and thus avoid a potentially embarrassing confrontation with biblical truth.

The shift from expository preaching to more topical and human-centered approaches has grown into a debate over the place of Scripture in preaching, and the nature of preaching itself.

Two statements about preaching illustrate this growing divide. Richard Baxter once remarked, “I preach as never sure to preach again, and as a dying man to dying men.” With vivid expression and a sense of gospel gravity, Baxter understood that preaching is literally a life or death affair. Eternity hangs in the balance as the preacher proclaims the Word.  The other is by Harry Emerson Fosdick pastor of the Riverside Church in New York City, “Preaching is personal counseling on a group basis.”

The current debate over preaching is most commonly explained as an argument about the focus and shape of the sermon. Should the preacher seek to preach a biblical text through an expository sermon? Or, should the preacher direct the sermon to the “felt needs” and perceived concerns of the hearers?

Clearly, many evangelicals now favor the second approach. Urged on by devotees of “needs-based preaching,” many evangelicals have abandoned the text without recognizing that they have done so. These preachers may eventually get to the text somewhere in the course of the sermon, but the text does not set the agenda or establish the shape of the message. It becomes a conclusion in search of a text.

Shockingly, this is now the approach evident in many evangelical pulpits. The sacred desk has become an advice center and the pew has become the therapist’s couch. Psychological and practical concerns have displaced theological exegesis and the preacher directs his sermon to the congregation’s perceived needs.

This mode of preaching denigrates its place to less than the Word of God and, consequently the need of something else for the church to find God.  And this other something easily becomes more and more emphasis on experiential worship.

The current debate over preaching may well shake congregations, denominations, and the evangelical movement. But know this: The recovery and renewal of the church in this generation will come only when from pulpit to pulpit the herald preaches as never sure to preach again, and as a dying man to dying men.

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Church, Ministry, Sermon Illustration

Magnificent uninvolvement

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I have used a phrase most of my adult life to describe someone who is a part of a church or other organization that just belongs but does nothing for its furtherance, “magnificent uninvolvement”.  This is a person that enjoys the community but without adding anything to that community.  It has become an art form of slippery non-commitments.  When someone asks for a decision about anything the pat answer is, “let me get back to you”.  When pressed brand new excuses come up.  Excuses like, “I am really too busy”, “I am compartmentalizing my life right now and can’t make a decision right now”, or “I am not ready to jump in with both feet.”

In my opinion, there are three reasons for magnificent uninvolvement.

The first is the person simply has a feeling of uselessness.  They have seen the up-front ones, the ones that are seen and admired, as the ones who should be doing the community involvement.  They are called but are not so-called that they see their place. They read in their Bible I Peter 4:10 and don’t see them seeing anything of worth to be used.  For the forlorn few, remember ministry is not just preaching. A board member suggested that all the church should have a method of finding a ministry.  The preacher interjected, “What would we do with 100 ushers?”  These people need to be taught.  Taught that there are special places, ministries, and gifts for all.  And, in turn, given the possibility to use and exercise in their gifts.  And yes, allowed to fail.

The second group is the hurting.  They have tried to become more active.  They have tried to use the gifts that God has given.  They ventured out to be what God wanted them to be.  But the response was judgment.  Others in the church did not see perfection in the offering and were too quick to tell the fledgling minister he was not producing the expected.  The church saw them as a threat to the status quo (which means all messed up in the first place).  Those who have been hurt by the judgment of others needs to be simply loved.  They need time to heal.  They need time to be in a community that does not judge.  Ministry is messy.

Lastly, there is a group that really irritates me.  The simply lazy.  In their lazy life, the only thing they do well is to criticize. They sit back and exclaim, “I won’t do anything until something changes around here.”  “Until everyone else does as I want them to do, I am not going to step up.”  It was Charles Spurgeon who said, “Every Christian is either a missionary or an imposter.”  This group becomes only consumers and not collaborators.  What they need is a fresh infilling of the Spirit of God.  But usually, that is the very thing they are running from.

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Bible, Life, Ministry, Personal, Sermon Illustration

Toll of rejection

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Being rejected more than once can be a bruise that will not heal quickly.  It seems to linger on until the next blow or rejection.  Sometimes you get to a point where you don’t feel quite as bad.  It becomes an acceptance of the off-color places in your soul.  It can even get to a place where you feel as though you deserve the abuse.  You feel like you don’t belong in the mainstream.  That you belong on the outside edge.  A place where you expect a disapproval.

In the Bible, a person like this would have been called unclean.  You start to feel like an outcast. You just want to give up.  You don’t want to be around those who tell you over and over, “You don’t belong here.”

Then comes the story from the Old Testament.  He was the son of Jonathan, who was the son of King Saul, Israel’s first king. You see Mephibosheth was disabled.  Both of his feet were useless.  In those days he would be called an outcast, a mistake, a person who didn’t belong.

When King David invited him and the rest of the family to join him to eat with him, he reacted just like someone who had been rejected so many times before.

In response to the invitation of King David, he hung his head down low and Mephibosheth said, “Who am I that you pay attention to a stray dog like me?” 2 Samuel 9:8.  You see rejection had taken its levy on his heart.  He could not see himself in the presence of the King, let alone eat with him. He had taken all the worlds opinion of him and deep down in his soul, he didn’t think himself worthy to be acknowledged, let alone invited in.

The church is becoming the instigator of pointing fingers at the different, the ones that don’t quite fit the mold.  And in response, those who need acceptance and love the most have started to believe the lies that they don’t belong. That they don’t matter. That the “church” will never have a place for them.

And yet King David, the man after God’s own heart, was not deterred. He insisted to Mephibosheth: “You belong here.”

And the story goes: Mephibosheth lived in Jerusalem, taking all his meals at the king’s table. He was lame on both feet.” 2 Samuel 9:13

Christians, churches, humanity — this must be our attitude toward anyone  and toward any person or group whom society has deemed “less than.” The fringes of society, the ones who are rejected turned away and told they don’t belong.

We must — like King David — insist otherwise.

Because if you are a human being, then you are indeed an image-bearer of the Most High God. So hear me when I say: You belong here.  You belong on this earth.  You belong at the King’s table.  You belong at the feet of Jesus.

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Church, Personal

Sometimes enough is enough

Sometimes they pronounce it very plainly. “You are not a team player.”  Other times it is much subtler in little glances or even the lack of eye contact. The message is clear, there has been an unpublished decree from some upper room, “you don’t belong here.”  It is a subtle treatment that wears a person down over time.  It is like a rope that has been stretched and wrapped so often it has become a frayed in the middle.  The ends are still OK, but there is a fear of putting any large strain on it.  The rope might just break.

It happens to anyone who doesn’t seem to quite fit the mold, the current standard, or group expectation.  It happens to anyone who makes others squirm a little when they are confronted with someone not quite like them.  But to the maverick, to the person who is a little different, the message is as plain as if it was plastered over the announcement screen in the middle of the morning service.

Most of us can recall incidents in our lives when we felt pushed aside when we were left out; times we didn’t belong. And those memories are always painful.

It’s a lonely feeling when you know you don’t belong. I went out for freshman football in my hometown.  The school was on emergency double sessions because the main Gymnasium had burnt down during the summer.  But the bus only ran in the morning.  The practices were in the afternoon.  I was a new kid, untried and unknown.  I didn’t even know much about football.  I was separated into the “other” group.  I felt if given a chance I could well make the team.  But being segregated early set my fate.

You are welcome to attend and give of your offerings, but don’t ask to be included in any ministry.  You don’t fit into the current vision for the church.  There are some attempts to bring the stray lamb back into the fold: a text message, a canned card from the Sunday School and the like.  But really when finally understanding the tense atmosphere I was a part of it was not enough.  Nothing like the parable of Jesus in leaving the ninety-nine to find the one.

I have become an itch the leadership of the church can’t scratch, and they don’t know how to deal with it. What’s more, we aren’t willing to try. We’ll just stick to how we’ve always done things because that’s what keeps us comfortable. If you would be just a little more normal.   After all, it’s sometimes necessary to sacrifice the needs of the few for the needs of the many.“

The rest is history.

We left the church after a grueling, anxiety-riddled couple of years.

Listen carefully: if a church sends you the message that you don’t belong, then get up and go. Shake the dust off your feet and move on. They are wrong, but fighting will only make things worse. Trying to push for inclusion in a place where you’re not wanted is an exercise in futility. Accept it for what it is, feel the pain, and walk away.

There are greener pastures ahead, I assure you. There are churches and faith communities who will open their arms to you and say, “You belong here.”  That is what I yearn for.  A community of flawed people loving other flawed people.

We all need a place to belong. We need to know we’re welcomed, wanted, loved.

In a well-known passage of the gospel of Luke, a “sinful woman” brashly enters the home of a respected Pharisee during a dinner party. She breaks a jar of perfume and anoints Jesus’s feet with it, and all the guests are shocked and appalled.

“She doesn’t belong here!” they cry.

But Jesus refutes their claims and blesses her for being right where she is.

Because every single person belongs at the feet of Jesus. He never turns anyone away.

Church

Where are the white hats?

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Right before our eyes, the church has been changed.  Once the church was considered a positive in any community.  In the early days of the West, a church was built before a school.  It was the place to be a part of the community.  It was a place where help could be found.  It was a place that was thought only as a good thing.  But today, I have seen a change.  The church has become typecast as something entirely different.

The church is pictured in the press, social media, and entertainment as an antagonist to progress.  For the casual non-believer, it is not unreasonable to view the church as actively working against advances to science, healthcare, education, politics, art, foreign policy, sexuality, and gender identity and equality.  The church is perceived as a detriment to all that is new, modern, contemporary, and understanding.  And the very institution of the Church only seems to stand up and say something is when it is against something.  Shouts of “don’t do that, don’t think that, don’t say that, don’t drink that, and don’t vote for that” is the new normal.

The church has become that anti-character or the antagonist on the world stage. The response to this typecasting is a gentle whisper.  “We can’t compromise on our values,” is the common answer from the church.  I am not saying we need to change the values of the church but to change the perception by doing something else.  That something else is to reclaim our role as a protagonist.  Become the good guy.  We need heroes, white hats, open arms, and open hearts.  No condemnation, no judgment; simply become more than a hard wall of an unbending standard.  We need to direct our attention and our zeal and our efforts to the provision of love.

We need to be a place of non-judgmental acceptance in our community.  A place where the lonely find a smile instead of a ruler.

We need to be a place where the hungry are fed and not set roadblocks.

We need to provide a place of safety.  A place of hope.  A place of fresh starts.  A place of vision.  A place where you are more likely to be mentored than taught.  A place where you are welcome in my home.  A place to share a meal and a hug.  The church is to provide a compelling vision of a better life than to coerce them into a superficial deistic moralism.  A church where you are never threatened, ensnared or bullied.  Instead, it is a place where you are pointed, challenged, exampled and released to make your own decision.

When Charlie Rose was interviewing Steve Martin about his life as an actor, he asked: “what is the best advice for new and aspiring entertainers?”  Steve Martin replied, “Be so good they can’t ignore you.”

We need a better agent to cast the church into a better role.  Not one of the bad guy wanting to steal the cattle and run away with the heroine, but the guy in the white hat that the whole community rallies around to reclaim the town.

What do you think?